Rihinna is a hypocrite. Exploiting Domestic Violence?

Exploiting Domestic Violence? Did we really need this to know she is a fake and hypocrite? Her first song back was Eminems song about abuse and being burned to death and she says she “loves the way it hurts”. And every time on tv she is clearly drunk or stoned.


http://townhall.com/columnists/brentbozell/2011/05/27/exploiting_domestic_violence

Rihinna is a hypocrite. Exploiting Domestic Violence?

I struggle with "slut walks".

I have had a hard time with this. As part of my programs on high school and college campuses we discuss communication and miscommunication and mixed signals. We discuss "words" and how words mean different things to different people. As we get into talking about degrading words the word slut always comes up and I ask who uses the word more, guys or girls. They always agree its girls. I make light (as a point of making a point) of the fact that girls use a word about other girls that THEY don’t like to be called by other girls or guys. Yet most girls agree some of their friends say it to their best friends meaning it in a "fun" way...as if saying "hey buddy". How can we have it both ways? So I struggle with taking a word that is so negative and trying to use it to get respect in an issue that already has a stigma for "gray areas" and that words like rape cant have all kinds of different definitions. How do we teach kids it’s ok to say certain words and call others certain things (like slut) if it used in the correct context?

This is a great piece and i echo many of the thoughts...

http://www.feminisms.org/2585/were-sluts-not-feminists-wherein-my-relationship-with-slutwalk-gets-rocky/

I struggle with "slut walks".

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases

This article makes some good points about "proof", but clearly colleges do have to start doing a better job and taking this more seriously.

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dailycaller/20110506/pl_dailycaller/deptofeducationordersuniversitiestolowerburdenofproofinsexcrimecases

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases

Fake MLK Quote in support of UBL

Some who cant accept that we killed a terrorist are hiding being a fake quote being credited to Martin Luther King.

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2011/05/out-of-osamas-death-a-fake-quotation-is-born/238220/

Fake MLK Quote in support of UBL

Why Is The Average Lottery Winner Broke Within Two Years?

Getting something free doesn't change who you ARE. If you were not responsible before, your habits will continue. So what happens when you get a $450,000 house for free?

This story from Yahoo News confirms something I’ve always wondered about. Interesting that Yahoo calls this project a “victim” of the mortgage crisis. The only thing it’s a victim of is the owners’ financial irresponsibility.
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More than 1,800 people showed up to help ABC’s “Extreme Makeover” team demolish a family’s decrepit home and replace it with a sparkling, four-bedroom mini-mansion in 2005.
Three years later, the reality TV show’s most ambitious project at the time has become the latest victim of the foreclosure crisis.

After the Harper family used the two-story home as collateral for a $450,000 loan, it’s set to go to auction on the steps of the Clayton County Courthouse Aug. 5. The couple did not return phone calls Monday, but told WSB-TV they received the loan for a construction business that failed.

The house was built in January 2005, after Atlanta-based Beazer Homes USA and ABC’s “Extreme Makeover” demolished their old home and its faulty septic system. Within six days, construction crews and hoards of volunteers had completed work on the largest home that the television program had yet built.

The finished product was a four-bedroom house with decorative rock walls and a three-car garage that towered over ranch and split-level homes in their Clayton County neighborhood. The home’s door opened into a lobby that featured four fireplaces, a solarium, a music room and a plush new office.

Materials and labor were donated for the home, which would have cost about $450,000 to build. Beazer Homes’ employees and company partners also raised $250,000 in contributions for the family, including scholarships for the couple’s three children and a home maintenance fund.

ABC said in a statement that it advises each family to consult a financial planner after they get their new home. “Ultimately, financial matters are personal, and we work to respect the privacy of the families,” the network said.

Some of the volunteers who helped build the home were less than thrilled about the family’s financial decisions.

“It’s aggravating. It just makes you mad. You do that much work, and they just squander it,” Lake City Mayor Willie Oswalt, who helped vault a massive beam into place in the Harper’s living room, told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.
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I have often joked in some of my seminars about how over the top these shows have become and how they could probably help several people for what they put into one house. I even saw one show where the owner liked fish so they made a bathroom sink into an aquarium. Oh, ya…those fish are still alive.

I think these shows started out with good intentions but now these types of shows have become nothing more than prime time infomercials for all the “caring” vendors and suppliers. I have often wondered what it would be like to do a “where are they now” show. Lets go back and look at these over the top homes that were built for people who didn’t take very good care of the one they had. Yet now we expect their behaviors will change and they will keep the house and yard just as the cameras left it as well as now afford all the higher bills and payments.

I am happy that here in Tampa we do have one of the success stories of Extreme Makeover Home Edition. The Tate family of Davis Island in Tampa had their house redone after an airplane crashed into it (see related articles below). The sad part is that I heard several people in my travels and programs as well as several Tampa residents say things like, “Why should they get a new house free? They already make enough money, have a restaurant and live on Davis Island”. I run by the Tate’s new home several times a week and a year and half later it still looks wonderful, maybe even better than when the cameras left. So WHY should people like this who have also suffered setbacks get something like this? One word: RESPONIBILITY.

A quick Google search turned up these related stories.
http://www.sptimes.com/2007/01/09/Hillsborough/Showtime_for__Makeove.shtml
http://stpetesuperfest.com/community/homemakeover/index2.shtml
http://www.simmons.com/products/brands/comforpedic/emhe/episode16.html
http://community.tvguide.com/blog-entry/Celebrity-Blogs/Paiges-Extreme-Makeover/March-4-2007/800010135

Why Is The Average Lottery Winner Broke Within Two Years?

Oops! Its hot, we're hot...the mic is hot

As someone who wears a microphone quite offen i do have nightmares sometimes about leaving it on like Leslie Nielsen's character, Frank Drebin, in the movie Airplane, while in the bathroom. But this! Well just stupid.



You treat every mic as hot like every gun as loaded.

Oops! Its hot, we're hot...the mic is hot

Ever Wish You Could Say It Over?

Have you ever lay awake at night—almost all night—and replayed a conversation in your head over and over and over and over? For a long while, I thought I was the only one who did that. Then I heard others admit they did it, too. Then yesterday I heard a lawyer friend of mine admit the habit to a group of colleagues.

You hear the entire exchange in instant replay—but not exactly. Your part of the dialogue changes. You redraft your responses. They get better, wiser, funnier, more cavalier, spontaneous, more patient, firmer, less aggressive, more resigned. Finally, they’re tuned to perfection. Then you ache for the opportunity to redo the dialogue in real life.
Most of the time that second chance never comes around—at least, not in exactly the same circumstance with the same person. But that doesn’t mean the all-nighter wasn’t worth the thought. Why?

Success in all parts of life is about communication. A Google Search on the single word communication turns up 320,000,000 results. In the workplace alone, your success at almost any endeavor correlates to your ability to communicate well, so you—and I—need all the practice we can get.

In paging through a couple management publications that talk about workplace communication, for example, we learn to

· survive a “pile it on” boss and leave the office with a focused list of priorities
· improve relationships while negotiating
· give “full-circle” feedback
· deliver more persuasive presentations
· show more empathetic responses as we listen
· avoid bull-dozer tendencies when leading
· end a customer or client conversation
· lead a team to listen to each other more effectively
· keep better meeting notes
· create more engaging copy for a website
· make better use of time on the phone
· neutralize win-lose discussions without breaking relationships
· criticize to some effect
· persuade others to change their behavior
· polish a professional image
· receive honest feedback
· introduce change and make it palatable
· deliver bad news with hope that bolsters morale

Communication—all of it. Unless you climb poles to repair power lines or toss pizza all day, it’s difficult to think of doing many jobs that don’t require core communication skills. Communicate well and you can master a job, influence a team, persuade a boss, win a client, build a business, create wealth, serve humankind, and move from success to significance.
Communicate poorly and your life fills with stress and unresolved problems just as surely as if you tried to patch a flat tire with bubble gum.

Make make communication improvement a habit. With every conversation, every meeting, every presentation, analyze and evaluate: Ask yourself: What went wrong? What went well? Why? What could or should I have said differently? What is the communication lesson learned?

Ever Wish You Could Say It Over?