Just the Tips: 29 Sex Tips from 29 Sexperts.

http://collegecandy.com/2011/11/08/just-the-tips-29-sex-tips-from-29-sexperts/#photo=10

Just the Tips: 29 Sex Tips from 29 Sexperts

Rihinna is a hypocrite. Exploiting Domestic Violence?

Exploiting Domestic Violence? Did we really need this to know she is a fake and hypocrite? Her first song back was Eminems song about abuse and being burned to death and she says she “loves the way it hurts”. And every time on tv she is clearly drunk or stoned.


http://townhall.com/columnists/brentbozell/2011/05/27/exploiting_domestic_violence

Rihinna is a hypocrite. Exploiting Domestic Violence?

Disney and Seal Team 6?

Disney attempts to trademark "Seal Team 6". Isn't that kind of crazy if allowed?

http://gawker.com/5801792/disney-trademarks-seal-team-6

Disney and Seal Team 6?

I struggle with "slut walks".

I have had a hard time with this. As part of my programs on high school and college campuses we discuss communication and miscommunication and mixed signals. We discuss "words" and how words mean different things to different people. As we get into talking about degrading words the word slut always comes up and I ask who uses the word more, guys or girls. They always agree its girls. I make light (as a point of making a point) of the fact that girls use a word about other girls that THEY don’t like to be called by other girls or guys. Yet most girls agree some of their friends say it to their best friends meaning it in a "fun" way...as if saying "hey buddy". How can we have it both ways? So I struggle with taking a word that is so negative and trying to use it to get respect in an issue that already has a stigma for "gray areas" and that words like rape cant have all kinds of different definitions. How do we teach kids it’s ok to say certain words and call others certain things (like slut) if it used in the correct context?

This is a great piece and i echo many of the thoughts...

http://www.feminisms.org/2585/were-sluts-not-feminists-wherein-my-relationship-with-slutwalk-gets-rocky/

I struggle with "slut walks".

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9 - Parenting on Shine

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/25-manners-every-kid-should-know-by-age-9-2480238

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases

This article makes some good points about "proof", but clearly colleges do have to start doing a better job and taking this more seriously.

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dailycaller/20110506/pl_dailycaller/deptofeducationordersuniversitiestolowerburdenofproofinsexcrimecases

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases

Could you serve?

Could you give up your job, life and family for a couple months to serve on a jury? Hmmmm

Could you serve?

Are "slut" walks helping or hurting?

Not sure what to think of the "slut" walks. First reaction is that its a word we dont like used and find degrading. So why try to use it as a "positive" and be proud of it. Curious what others think. Does it confuse the issue more?

http://on.msnbc.com/l3J1EF

Are "slut" walks helping or hurting?

Rape at University of Miami. Sex with drunk person is Rape.

A person CANT legally consent to sex under the influence of alcohol. So for his lawyer to say he "didn’t engage in any criminal conduct that night and didn’t break any UM rules"...CLEARLY he did. To have sex with a drunk person IS RAPE.


http://bit.ly/kxea02

Rape at University of Miami. Sex with drunk person is Rape.

Fake MLK Quote in support of UBL

Some who cant accept that we killed a terrorist are hiding being a fake quote being credited to Martin Luther King.

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2011/05/out-of-osamas-death-a-fake-quotation-is-born/238220/

Fake MLK Quote in support of UBL

Justice Elusive for Many Rape Victims

CBS News Report Finds Thousands of Rape Kits Untested, Rape Arrest Rates Low Nationally.


http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/11/10/earlyshow/main5600821.shtml

Justice Elusive for Many Rape Victims

Find Sex Offenders and Rapists in Your Neighborhood

There is a great site for knowing who is living in your neighborhood. It will give you detailed info about people convicted for offense against children, rape, sexual assault (battery), or other offenses.

-1 of 5 girls and 1 of 6 boys will be molested before their 18th birthday.
- 90% of all sexual assaults against children are committed by someone whom the victim knew.
-The typical sexual predator will assault 117 times before being caught.
-The re-arrest rate for convicted child molesters is 52%.

Just type in your address and a map comes up with all colored address of offenders in your area. Click on the colored square and you can see a picture, description and address of the person. Click on conviction and it will tell you what they have done and when.

http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Find Sex Offenders and Rapists in Your Neighborhood

Bow Tie vs Bandages. Chris Brown vs Rihanna.

A couple days ago I blogged about the Chris Brown interview on Larry King Live. The interview was an attempt to rebuild his image (I am chuckling at that) after his assault and beatings of ex girlfriend Rihanna. A judge sentenced Chris Brown to five years' probation and six months' community labor and ordered Brown to stay away from Rihanna for five years. In the interview it was disturbing to hear Chris Brown say he doesn’t remember assaulting and beating Rihanna to a pulp. Or other times he has beaten her. And I am sure many of you remember how he attempted to capitalize on the beating by quickly recording a song about it. I think it’s just as disturbing that after Larry King interview aired last night social media blogs like Mashable and others in Hollywood find it more important to talk about what the violent animal wore instead of the reason he was on the show, which is that he beats women. Mashable appears to be impressed with how fast a small detail like what someone wears such as Browns tie can become an "Internet phenomenon" at the speed of real-time. I wonder if they spend as much time talking about the wounds and scars (physical and emotional) that are left on victims of assault by people like Brown in “real-time” and the bandages they have to wear.

http://mashable.com/2009/09/03/chris-brown-bow-tie/

Bow Tie vs Bandages. Chris Brown vs Rihanna.

Chris Brown Channeling Oliver North

Wasn’t it back in the 80s during the Iran–Contra affair that Oliver North successfully used the, “I have no recollection” defense? We knew Chris Brown was an idiot but now with his, “I remember beating her”, “I don’t remember beating her” story about his attacks on Rihanna he achieves an even lower scum rating. Is this guy for real?

http://blogs.tampabay.com/juice/2009/09/suddenly-chris-brown-remembers-beating-rihanna.html

Chris Brown Channeling Oliver North

Have You Bought any Underwear Lately?

Who knew that underwear could be such an economic indicator? According to this piece in the Washington Post, men’s underwear sales, or MUI, men’s underwear index, is a good indicator of what is going on with consumers. Hmmmm, it does make some sense don’t you think?

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/08/30/AR2009083002761.html

Have You Bought any Underwear Lately?

1991 kidnapping suspect: Story is 'heart-warming'

I am not so sure about 'heart warming'. This story had me so outraged. My first instinct was to want this man dead. To bring back the death penalty for anyone who rapes a child. Then my dear friend Heather reminded me how that would be an easy way out for such an animal. An animal like this should suffer more. We have all heard how people who hurt children are treated in prison. We can only hope he gets what he deserves.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2009-08-27-calif-kidnap-victim_N.htm?csp=15

1991 kidnapping suspect: Story is 'heart-warming'

People Skills More Important Than Technical Skills

I often coach and teach people that your ability to deal effectively with people contributes greater to your success than your technical ability, especially as a leader. This is supported in a recent survey listed in Training Magazine:

When training participants were asked about the types of courses that would greatly increase their effectiveness at work.

1. Leadership skills
2. Dealing with conflict or difficult people
3. Technical knowledge related to my job

http://www.trainingmag.com/msg/content_display/publications/e3idb69280d465a66a25701da301b2a2d11

People Skills More Important Than Technical Skills

Women at Risk

Well said and worth a read...

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/08/opinion/08herbert.html?_r=2&scp=1&sq=bob%20hebert%20women%20at%20risk&st=cse

Women at Risk

10 Lessons on life from an MD

10 Lessons on Life

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.

Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.

Give the world the best you have anyway.

10 Lessons on life from an MD

The Platinum Rule

One of the top comments I get from managers and leaders I work with is, “Mark, today’s young people don’t have a work ethic”. My response to that is, YES they do, they just don’t have YOURS. If you are going to be an effective leader it means understanding how different generations think, how they communicate, what motivates THEM. Too many of us were brought up with the old Golden Rule mentality – Treat people the way you want to be treated. That is exactly the reason we have so many relationship and communication issues. Not everyone wants the same things as you or me.

In some organizations today we are dealing with three, four and even five generations. And then you factor in the four different personality/behavioral styles of the people in our lives. It’s important to be multi-lingual, and I don’t mean by ethnicity. To effectively lead people you must understand the wants, needs, desires and communication style of each generation and personality style, then speak THEIR language. It means dropping the golden rule and adopting the platinum rule – Treat people the way THEY want to be treated.

Feel free to contact me if you would like to learn more about personality styles or working with different generations. Here are a few helpful links for dealing with Generation Y (born between the years of 1982 and 2000 and are currently ages 7-26)

Managing Generation Y

Managing Generation Y as They Change the Workforce

Communicating with Twentysomethings

A Boomer's Guide to Communicating with Gen X and Gen Y

Gen Y v. Boomers: Generational Differences in Communication

The Platinum Rule