MARK my words by Mark Dawson

Just the Tips: 29 Sex Tips from 29 Sexperts

2011-11-09T12:56:00.000-05:00

Just the Tips: 29 Sex Tips from 29 Sexperts.

http://collegecandy.com/2011/11/08/just-the-tips-29-sex-tips-from-29-sexperts/#photo=10

Rihinna is a hypocrite. Exploiting Domestic Violence?

2011-05-27T14:31:00.001-04:00

Exploiting Domestic Violence? Did we really need this to know she is a fake and hypocrite? Her first song back was Eminems song about abuse and being burned to death and she says she “loves the way it hurts”. And every time on tv she is clearly drunk or stoned.

http://townhall.com/columnists/brentbozell/2011/05/27/exploiting_domestic_violence

Disney and Seal Team 6?

2011-05-16T11:52:00.004-04:00

Disney attempts to trademark "Seal Team 6". Isn't that kind of crazy if allowed?

http://gawker.com/5801792/disney-trademarks-seal-team-6

I struggle with "slut walks".

2011-05-11T18:38:00.000-04:00

I have had a hard time with this. As part of my programs on high school and college campuses we discuss communication and miscommunication and mixed signals. We discuss "words" and how words mean different things to different people. As we get into talking about degrading words the word slut always comes up and I ask who uses the word more, guys or girls. They always agree its girls. I make light (as a point of making a point) of the fact that girls use a word about other girls that THEY don’t like to be called by other girls or guys. Yet most girls agree some of their friends say it to their best friends meaning it in a "fun" way...as if saying "hey buddy". How can we have it both ways? So I struggle with taking a word that is so negative and trying to use it to get respect in an issue that already has a stigma for "gray areas" and that words like rape cant have all kinds of different definitions. How do we teach kids it’s ok to say certain words and call others certain things (like slut) if it used in the correct context?

This is a great piece and i echo many of the thoughts...

http://www.feminisms.org/2585/were-sluts-not-feminists-wherein-my-relationship-with-slutwalk-gets-rocky/

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9

2011-05-10T22:03:00.001-04:00

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9 - Parenting on Shine

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/25-manners-every-kid-should-know-by-age-9-2480238

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases

2011-05-10T12:37:00.002-04:00

This article makes some good points about "proof", but clearly colleges do have to start doing a better job and taking this more seriously.

Dept of Education orders universities to lower burden of proof in sex crime cases.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dailycaller/20110506/pl_dailycaller/deptofeducationordersuniversitiestolowerburdenofproofinsexcrimecases

Could you serve?

2011-05-09T23:11:00.001-04:00

Could you give up your job, life and family for a couple months to serve on a jury? Hmmmm

Are "slut" walks helping or hurting?

2011-05-09T11:33:00.002-04:00

Not sure what to think of the "slut" walks. First reaction is that its a word we dont like used and find degrading. So why try to use it as a "positive" and be proud of it. Curious what others think. Does it confuse the issue more?

http://on.msnbc.com/l3J1EF

Rape at University of Miami. Sex with drunk person is Rape.

2011-05-06T10:37:00.002-04:00

A person CANT legally consent to sex under the influence of alcohol. So for his lawyer to say he "didn’t engage in any criminal conduct that night and didn’t break any UM rules"...CLEARLY he did. To have sex with a drunk person IS RAPE.

http://bit.ly/kxea02

Fake MLK Quote in support of UBL

2011-05-03T12:34:00.001-04:00

Some who cant accept that we killed a terrorist are hiding being a fake quote being credited to Martin Luther King.

http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2011/05/out-of-osamas-death-a-fake-quotation-is-born/238220/

Justice Elusive for Many Rape Victims

2009-11-12T11:14:00.000-05:00

CBS News Report Finds Thousands of Rape Kits Untested, Rape Arrest Rates Low Nationally.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2009/11/10/earlyshow/main5600821.shtml

Find Sex Offenders and Rapists in Your Neighborhood

2009-09-25T12:46:00.001-04:00

There is a great site for knowing who is living in your neighborhood. It will give you detailed info about people convicted for offense against children, rape, sexual assault (battery), or other offenses.

-1 of 5 girls and 1 of 6 boys will be molested before their 18th birthday.
- 90% of all sexual assaults against children are committed by someone whom the victim knew.
-The typical sexual predator will assault 117 times before being caught.
-The re-arrest rate for convicted child molesters is 52%.

Just type in your address and a map comes up with all colored address of offenders in your area. Click on the colored square and you can see a picture, description and address of the person. Click on conviction and it will tell you what they have done and when.

http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Bow Tie vs Bandages. Chris Brown vs Rihanna.

2009-09-03T11:25:00.002-04:00

A couple days ago I blogged about the Chris Brown interview on Larry King Live. The interview was an attempt to rebuild his image (I am chuckling at that) after his assault and beatings of ex girlfriend Rihanna. A judge sentenced Chris Brown to five years' probation and six months' community labor and ordered Brown to stay away from Rihanna for five years. In the interview it was disturbing to hear Chris Brown say he doesn’t remember assaulting and beating Rihanna to a pulp. Or other times he has beaten her. And I am sure many of you remember how he attempted to capitalize on the beating by quickly recording a song about it. I think it’s just as disturbing that after Larry King interview aired last night social media blogs like Mashable and others in Hollywood find it more important to talk about what the violent animal wore instead of the reason he was on the show, which is that he beats women. Mashable appears to be impressed with how fast a small detail like what someone wears such as Browns tie can become an "Internet phenomenon" at the speed of real-time. I wonder if they spend as much time talking about the wounds and scars (physical and emotional) that are left on victims of assault by people like Brown in “real-time” and the bandages they have to wear.

http://mashable.com/2009/09/03/chris-brown-bow-tie/

Chris Brown Channeling Oliver North

2009-09-01T14:25:00.001-04:00

Wasn’t it back in the 80s during the Iran–Contra affair that Oliver North successfully used the, “I have no recollection” defense? We knew Chris Brown was an idiot but now with his, “I remember beating her”, “I don’t remember beating her” story about his attacks on Rihanna he achieves an even lower scum rating. Is this guy for real?

http://blogs.tampabay.com/juice/2009/09/suddenly-chris-brown-remembers-beating-rihanna.html

Have You Bought any Underwear Lately?

2009-09-01T14:05:00.001-04:00

Who knew that underwear could be such an economic indicator? According to this piece in the Washington Post, men’s underwear sales, or MUI, men’s underwear index, is a good indicator of what is going on with consumers. Hmmmm, it does make some sense don’t you think?

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/08/30/AR2009083002761.html

1991 kidnapping suspect: Story is 'heart-warming'

2009-08-28T12:14:00.004-04:00

I am not so sure about 'heart warming'. This story had me so outraged. My first instinct was to want this man dead. To bring back the death penalty for anyone who rapes a child. Then my dear friend Heather reminded me how that would be an easy way out for such an animal. An animal like this should suffer more. We have all heard how people who hurt children are treated in prison. We can only hope he gets what he deserves.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2009-08-27-calif-kidnap-victim_N.htm?csp=15

People Skills More Important Than Technical Skills

2009-08-13T12:53:00.002-04:00

I often coach and teach people that your ability to deal effectively with people contributes greater to your success than your technical ability, especially as a leader. This is supported in a recent survey listed in Training Magazine:

When training participants were asked about the types of courses that would greatly increase their effectiveness at work.

1. Leadership skills
2. Dealing with conflict or difficult people
3. Technical knowledge related to my job

http://www.trainingmag.com/msg/content_display/publications/e3idb69280d465a66a25701da301b2a2d11

Women at Risk

2009-08-11T15:10:00.002-04:00

Well said and worth a read...

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/08/opinion/08herbert.html?_r=2&scp=1&sq=bob%20hebert%20women%20at%20risk&st=cse

10 Lessons on life from an MD

2009-06-24T15:31:00.001-04:00

10 Lessons on Life

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.

Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.

Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.

Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.

Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.

Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.

Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.

Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.

Give the world the best you have anyway.

The Platinum Rule

2009-05-29T16:31:00.001-04:00

One of the top comments I get from managers and leaders I work with is, “Mark, today’s young people don’t have a work ethic”. My response to that is, YES they do, they just don’t have YOURS. If you are going to be an effective leader it means understanding how different generations think, how they communicate, what motivates THEM. Too many of us were brought up with the old Golden Rule mentality – Treat people the way you want to be treated. That is exactly the reason we have so many relationship and communication issues. Not everyone wants the same things as you or me.

In some organizations today we are dealing with three, four and even five generations. And then you factor in the four different personality/behavioral styles of the people in our lives. It’s important to be multi-lingual, and I don’t mean by ethnicity. To effectively lead people you must understand the wants, needs, desires and communication style of each generation and personality style, then speak THEIR language. It means dropping the golden rule and adopting the platinum rule – Treat people the way THEY want to be treated.

Feel free to contact me if you would like to learn more about personality styles or working with different generations. Here are a few helpful links for dealing with Generation Y (born between the years of 1982 and 2000 and are currently ages 7-26)

Managing Generation Y

Managing Generation Y as They Change the Workforce

Communicating with Twentysomethings

A Boomer's Guide to Communicating with Gen X and Gen Y

Gen Y v. Boomers: Generational Differences in Communication

Self Esteem Deficit?

2009-04-23T14:07:00.002-04:00

Did you Know that over 85% of people have some sort of self esteem deficit?

Great piece by Sharon Wilson

There is NO "gray area"

2009-04-16T11:58:00.003-04:00

A good article on sexual assault and date rape however i take issue with the title, "A New Kind of Date Rape". NOTHING NEW ABOUT IT! And there are NO gray areas as she calls it. You either have consent, which is a YES. Or you dont!

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/sex/new-kind-of-date-rape?

Just talk to me!

2009-04-15T20:39:00.003-04:00

Just think about it, we Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, text, email, instant message and more. Imagine if a device is developed which actually allows us to TALK! ;)

Change

2008-09-06T14:32:00.002-04:00

The Change Report, based on 1306 online interviews conducted by Southeastern Institute of Research has a lot to say about interpersonal communication and relationships so I thought I'd post a few items based on this report. The part of this research that has been highlighted by the press is its survey of the top fears that people have now and had in 1967 (when the Social Readjustment Rating Scale was published). There are some interesting differences and although the researchers caution that statistical comparisons should not be made, they do note that the findings can be interpreted as relative and directional. [Respondents were asked to give a numerical value (from 1 to 100) to a variety of stressful events.] In 1967 the death of a spouse was rated 100 but in 2007 it was rated 80. The death of a friend, on the other hand, showed a different direction. In 1967 it was 37 but in 2007 it was 58.Also interesting was the rating given to divorce--in 1967 it received a rating of 73 but in 2007 it had dropped to 66. It seems relationship stressors are easier to navigate today than they were in 1967.On the other hand, stress from being laid off from a job went from 47 in 1967 to 62 in 2007 and changing job field went from 36 in 1967 to 47 in 2007. It seems that job stressors are getting worse.

Great leaders hire great people and build great teams!

2008-08-07T15:00:00.002-04:00

Great leaders surround themselves with great people. Lone ranger leadership is doomed to fail, there is no one great person that is going to transform an organization it takes a strong team and a great leader. If you look at the life of anyone who has achieved success, such as Jack Welch, Bill Gates and others, you’ll notice that they surround themselves with great people. But! It’s not that easy, the trick is to known what great looks like, "How do you know the great people when you see them?" An article by Peter Carbonara from Fast Company provides help for leaders looking to identify and select the right people for their team.

The proposition is undeniable: you can’t build a great company without great people. But how many companies are as rigorous about hiring and comfortable evaluating job candidates as they are deciding on an investment proposal? The all-too-common reality, in far too many companies, is that hiring processes are poorly designed and shabbily executed.

Of course, making the commitment to hire great people raises an even more basic question: How do you know them when you see them? Over the last few years, a number of companies have asked themselves that question. They’ve analyzed what separates their winners from their losers, good hires from bad hires. These companies compete in a wide range of industries — from airlines to steel, computers to hotels — but they all arrived at the same answer: What people know is less important than who they are. Hiring, they believe, is not about finding people with the right experience. It’s about finding people with the right mind-set. These companies hire for attitude and train for skill.

The article proposes that by using the following four principles you can improve your chances of selecting the right person…..

What You Know Changes, Who You Are Doesn’t - Popeye was right: "I y’am what I y’am." The most common — and fatal — hiring mistake is to find someone with the right skills but the wrong mind-set and hire them on the theory, "We can change ‘em." Davidson’s response? Forget it. "The single best predictor of future behavior is past behavior," he says. "Your personality is going to be essentially the same throughout your life." As evidence, he points to U.S. Air Force research on personality types that began in the 1950s. For decades, researchers tracked their subjects by observing their behavior and interviewing their families, friends, and colleagues. The conclusion? Basic personality traits did not change, Davidson says. "Introverts were introverts, extroverts were extroverts. The descriptions were constant."
You Can’t Find What You’re Not Looking For - Bill Byham, perhaps the world’s foremost authority on hiring, is president and CEO of Pittsburgh-based Development Dimensions International (DDI) . He’s also the father of a hiring methodology that goes by many names ("Targeted Selection" is the most popular) but revolves around a simple idea: the best way to select people who’ll thrive in your company is to identify the personal characteristics of people who are already thriving and hire people just like them. In the Byham model, companies work to understand their star performers, identify their target behaviors and attitudes, and then develop interview questions to find people with those attributes.
The Best Way to Evaluate People is to Watch Them Work - A few companies take this rule literally — none more so than steelmaking giant Nucor. In many ways, Nucor is to steel what Southwest is to airlines: innovative, fast-moving, eager to break the rules. One of Nucor’s best sources of new steelworkers are the construction workers who build its plants. Managers monitor their construction sites, look for plumbers and electricians who demonstrate the work habits they value, and then hire them. At Nucor, the dirty and dangerous task of building a steel mill is one long interview for jobs running it.
You Can’t Hire People Who Don’t Apply - Companies that take hiring seriously also take recruiting seriously….. Companies that hire smart usually start their recruiting efforts close to home — with their own people. SGI’s Lane estimates that 65% of his company’s new hires began as referrals from current employees. It makes sense: it takes a certain kind of person to thrive at SGI, and those people tend to spend time (personally and professionally) with people like themselves.

One of the central tasks of leaders is the selection and development of people and teams. Leaders tend to recruit too hastily and take too long to remove those who are under-performing. The key to recruiting great people it to be clear about what you’re looking for in others. What are the characteristics of people who succeed in your team? Do you actively look for those characteristics in the people you’re looking to hire?

Why Is The Average Lottery Winner Broke Within Two Years?

2008-07-30T23:22:00.001-04:00

Getting something free doesn't change who you ARE. If you were not responsible before, your habits will continue. So what happens when you get a $450,000 house for free?

This story from Yahoo News confirms something I’ve always wondered about. Interesting that Yahoo calls this project a “victim” of the mortgage crisis. The only thing it’s a victim of is the owners’ financial irresponsibility.
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More than 1,800 people showed up to help ABC’s “Extreme Makeover” team demolish a family’s decrepit home and replace it with a sparkling, four-bedroom mini-mansion in 2005.
Three years later, the reality TV show’s most ambitious project at the time has become the latest victim of the foreclosure crisis.

After the Harper family used the two-story home as collateral for a $450,000 loan, it’s set to go to auction on the steps of the Clayton County Courthouse Aug. 5. The couple did not return phone calls Monday, but told WSB-TV they received the loan for a construction business that failed.

The house was built in January 2005, after Atlanta-based Beazer Homes USA and ABC’s “Extreme Makeover” demolished their old home and its faulty septic system. Within six days, construction crews and hoards of volunteers had completed work on the largest home that the television program had yet built.

The finished product was a four-bedroom house with decorative rock walls and a three-car garage that towered over ranch and split-level homes in their Clayton County neighborhood. The home’s door opened into a lobby that featured four fireplaces, a solarium, a music room and a plush new office.

Materials and labor were donated for the home, which would have cost about $450,000 to build. Beazer Homes’ employees and company partners also raised $250,000 in contributions for the family, including scholarships for the couple’s three children and a home maintenance fund.

ABC said in a statement that it advises each family to consult a financial planner after they get their new home. “Ultimately, financial matters are personal, and we work to respect the privacy of the families,” the network said.

Some of the volunteers who helped build the home were less than thrilled about the family’s financial decisions.

“It’s aggravating. It just makes you mad. You do that much work, and they just squander it,” Lake City Mayor Willie Oswalt, who helped vault a massive beam into place in the Harper’s living room, told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.
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I have often joked in some of my seminars about how over the top these shows have become and how they could probably help several people for what they put into one house. I even saw one show where the owner liked fish so they made a bathroom sink into an aquarium. Oh, ya…those fish are still alive.

I think these shows started out with good intentions but now these types of shows have become nothing more than prime time infomercials for all the “caring” vendors and suppliers. I have often wondered what it would be like to do a “where are they now” show. Lets go back and look at these over the top homes that were built for people who didn’t take very good care of the one they had. Yet now we expect their behaviors will change and they will keep the house and yard just as the cameras left it as well as now afford all the higher bills and payments.

I am happy that here in Tampa we do have one of the success stories of Extreme Makeover Home Edition. The Tate family of Davis Island in Tampa had their house redone after an airplane crashed into it (see related articles below). The sad part is that I heard several people in my travels and programs as well as several Tampa residents say things like, “Why should they get a new house free? They already make enough money, have a restaurant and live on Davis Island”. I run by the Tate’s new home several times a week and a year and half later it still looks wonderful, maybe even better than when the cameras left. So WHY should people like this who have also suffered setbacks get something like this? One word: RESPONIBILITY.

A quick Google search turned up these related stories.
http://www.sptimes.com/2007/01/09/Hillsborough/Showtime_for__Makeove.shtml
http://stpetesuperfest.com/community/homemakeover/index2.shtml
http://www.simmons.com/products/brands/comforpedic/emhe/episode16.html
http://community.tvguide.com/blog-entry/Celebrity-Blogs/Paiges-Extreme-Makeover/March-4-2007/800010135

How hard would it be to smile?

2008-07-15T20:19:00.000-04:00

I was at the post office to pay for my PO Box. The woman behind the counter looked at me as I waited for her to finish with the gentleman in front of me. Although she looked directly at me, she did not in any way acknowledge me. No smile, no "hi," no "I will be right with you." Not even a nod.

How did this make me feel? VERY unimportant. VERY invisible. The strange thing is that she did look at me. How hard would it have been to add some sort of human contact to make me feel welcome? Literally she might have had to make the slight physical effort to raise the corners of her lips into a smile. Or move the muscles in her neck to nod. But seriously not much effort at all.

So why didn't she do it? My guess is that no one, not her bosses or her customers ever bothered to let her know the impact of her inaction. Probably no one taught her how to be kind and welcoming. In fact no one ever spent anytime helping her understand the importance of greeting her customer.

Just because she is a civil servant doesn't mean that we residents aren't her customers. And ALL customers (no matter what you call them: clients, patrons, patients, guest, buyer, member, or enrollee) deserve your warm greeting.

Start paying attention to how you are treated. As you become more aware of how you are treated it will be easier to judge how well you are doing with greeting your customer. And if you are a manager, start training your employees on what a good greeting looks and sounds like. Then reward them when they do it correctly.

Dealing With Difficult People

2008-07-14T17:10:00.000-04:00

It seems the past few weeks I have had a few clients want to talk about dealing with difficult people. Whether it is a customer, employee or boss difficult people can be hard to handle.

Here are a few tips that may help the conversation go a little smoother the next time you encounter a difficult person:

Stay focused on the situation, issue or the behavior, not the person.
It is easy to get pulled into focusing on the person. So examine your intention. Your intention will drive where you focus. If your intention is to get even for the way you were treated or to make sure you win, you will be focused on the person. Your goal is to stay focused on the issue or behavior not the person.

Pick the right place and time.
I have a belief that it is better to praise in public and criticizes in private. I also believe the timing is very important. If it is a big issue or going to have an impact on others, address it as soon as possible. Otherwise it might be better to wait until the other party has calmed down to address the issue.

Don't assume.
Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Ask questions to help you really identify the problem or discover what happened.

Prepare for defensiveness.
Whenever dealing with difficult people, it's important to anticipate that they may become defensive. It is also helpful for you not to take it personally when they do. Getting caught off guard could be a challenging situation. So anticipate how the other person might respond. Think through how you might respond if the other person gets angry and/or verbally attacks you.

10 Ways to Deal with People in Difficult Situations

Here are some suggested tips for handling difficult people. Use only the ones you feel comfortable with and you think will work with the person:

1. Keep the conversation focused on the issue, situation or the behavior not the person.
2. Make sure your non-verbal and verbal languages are congruent.
3. Try to talk with them during their best times of the day.
4. If a difficult issue must be discussed, speak with them in private.
5. Determine their STYLE of communications based on personality style. Then adjust your communicate accordingly.
6. PRACTICE - Rehearse before you interact by anticipating the reactions and preparing responses.
7. Set personal limits on what you will put up with and when merited share them.
8. Don't always take their remarks or dislikes personally.
9. Keep your cool! Keep a positive attitude and lead by example.
10.Remember you're in charge. Assess if it is possible to continue the discussion. If not, suggest continuing this conversation at a specified later time.

The Power of Communicating a Little Information: Inform the airlines

2008-07-11T11:22:00.000-04:00

While I was hostage at the airport recently, waiting on my cancelled 5:30 flight, then waiting for my rebooked 8:30 flight, which then finally left at 10:35 (argh), I couldn’t help notice how airline agents handled the disgruntled travelers. Some do well. Others have difficulty offering an outright apology—an expression of “We’re concerned because we made a mistake/did something wrong.” Agents personally, of course, do not make such decisions to cancel flights. But airlines send them to the “front lines” to represent the company without equipping them with the right message or the right attitude.

There was no weather problem. Neither was there a mechanical problem. Passengers were left to guess why the first flight was cancelled (flight not full; unprofitable, probably). No explanation about delays on the second flight either—except “waiting on a plane.” No reason they couldn’t announce to us 200, plus passengers standing around the gate when that plane was expected to arrive and take off again. This same thing happens many times while sitting on the plane for extended periods. Just tell us why we are sitting there.

As the various agents grew more nonchalant and/or sullen about answering questions, the passengers grew angrier and angrier.

Failure to admit mistakes and poor service leads to outrage. Failure to express concern leads to bitterness. Survivors, even dying victims, forgive mistakes; they don’t forgive unconcern.

Here are a few guidelines I teach in my people skills and communication programs:

Admit or report problems and mistakes immediately.
Delay only compounds the problem—for yourself and others involved to correct the problem or control the consequences.

Focus on resolution.
Rather than wringing your hands about a situation, direct all energy to solving the problem yourself or suggesting solutions to others who must implement them.

Offer explanation to restore confidence.
Because people are not mind-readers, you have to explain why you made the judgment call you did, why the error happened, or your reasoning behind your actions. Such explanations restore confidence because people understand mistakes. In the absence of information, it’s human nature to assume the worst about the details of a mistake (for example, that you are careless or a poor decision maker).

Express regret about the outcome/situation.
Even if things are not your fault, you can express sincere regret over the situation without accept liability.

Be specific.
Make clear statements with specific details that show you understand the severity (or potential severity) of the situation/problem. Avoid global, blanket apologies such as “I’m sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused you.” Such vague statements are interpreted to mean, “I have no idea what kind of problem I caused, but if you want an apology, here it is.” This merely incites bosses, customers, and colleagues further.

Concern connects people. In whatever situation—from product recall to layoffs to employee illness to accident victims to stressed travelers—there’s tremendous power in communicating concern. Somebody should tell the airlines—at least until Congress acts and gets this mess fixed with a passenger bill of rights.

Oops! Its hot, we're hot...the mic is hot

2008-07-10T18:40:00.000-04:00

As someone who wears a microphone quite offen i do have nightmares sometimes about leaving it on like Leslie Nielsen's character, Frank Drebin, in the movie Airplane, while in the bathroom. But this! Well just stupid.

You treat every mic as hot like every gun as loaded.

Ever Wish You Could Say It Over?

2008-07-01T14:09:00.000-04:00

Have you ever lay awake at night—almost all night—and replayed a conversation in your head over and over and over and over? For a long while, I thought I was the only one who did that. Then I heard others admit they did it, too. Then yesterday I heard a lawyer friend of mine admit the habit to a group of colleagues.

You hear the entire exchange in instant replay—but not exactly. Your part of the dialogue changes. You redraft your responses. They get better, wiser, funnier, more cavalier, spontaneous, more patient, firmer, less aggressive, more resigned. Finally, they’re tuned to perfection. Then you ache for the opportunity to redo the dialogue in real life.
Most of the time that second chance never comes around—at least, not in exactly the same circumstance with the same person. But that doesn’t mean the all-nighter wasn’t worth the thought. Why?

Success in all parts of life is about communication. A Google Search on the single word communication turns up 320,000,000 results. In the workplace alone, your success at almost any endeavor correlates to your ability to communicate well, so you—and I—need all the practice we can get.

In paging through a couple management publications that talk about workplace communication, for example, we learn to

· survive a “pile it on” boss and leave the office with a focused list of priorities
· improve relationships while negotiating
· give “full-circle” feedback
· deliver more persuasive presentations
· show more empathetic responses as we listen
· avoid bull-dozer tendencies when leading
· end a customer or client conversation
· lead a team to listen to each other more effectively
· keep better meeting notes
· create more engaging copy for a website
· make better use of time on the phone
· neutralize win-lose discussions without breaking relationships
· criticize to some effect
· persuade others to change their behavior
· polish a professional image
· receive honest feedback
· introduce change and make it palatable
· deliver bad news with hope that bolsters morale

Communication—all of it. Unless you climb poles to repair power lines or toss pizza all day, it’s difficult to think of doing many jobs that don’t require core communication skills. Communicate well and you can master a job, influence a team, persuade a boss, win a client, build a business, create wealth, serve humankind, and move from success to significance.
Communicate poorly and your life fills with stress and unresolved problems just as surely as if you tried to patch a flat tire with bubble gum.

Make make communication improvement a habit. With every conversation, every meeting, every presentation, analyze and evaluate: Ask yourself: What went wrong? What went well? Why? What could or should I have said differently? What is the communication lesson learned?

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